What Makes Women in Love Behave So Foolishly and Unreasonable At Times?

I can never understand what makes women in love behave so foolishly and act unreasonable, especially those women who enable men to cheat on their wives.

I must admit, though I'm not a prude and try not to be judgemental - quite frankly I feel like these women are committing a betrayal against the sisterhood.

Yes, I'm a woman myself and I've been spending the month of March applauding the women and waving my flag of womanhood proudly.

As a woman writer, I believe that in honor of 2026 Women's History Month, there are lots of important topics and issues related to women that we need to be addressing, this one included.

Relatively speaking, with all the violence against women and girls (VAWG), job and pay disparities, and outright oppression in general; the topic of illicit affairs between consenting adults might not rank high on the list.

But personally, I believe it's one of those areas that could stand to be discussed this month, because I've seen first hand how it can adversely affect both women involved in the triangle - the married woman and the woman who enables the husband to cheat.

For folks who don’t already know it, people in love tend to do some crazy stuff, and quite frankly, women seem to do the craziest.

Addressing Women Who Enable Men to Cheat on Their Wives

As I write this story and address the issue of women who enable men to cheat on their wives, I must confess, one of the sisters I love so dearly and wrote about more times than I can remember, was previously guilty of this offense.

Two years ago, my younger sister who is old enough to know better, found herself involved in a love triangle that caused her nothing but grief.

My heart was so heavy at the time, I needed to write about it and try to get things off my chest. I find that it often helps to vent, even when there’s nothing else that you can reasonably do.

Even though I felt like it was sort of a betrayal to write about her situation, I needed a place to hash things out, and say what was on my mind at the time, mainly because talking to her about it was in vain.

No matter how much I tried, my words to fall on deaf ears.

Without sharing anything too specific, I made a long story short and simply told how my little sister was involved with a married man, that she insisted she was madly in love with.

Scandalous, right?

In all honesty, as much as it hurt me to see her constantly sad, in tears, and even doubting herself at times, I also have a certain sense of loyalty to the sisterhood of women, which made it hard to sympathize with a woman who enables a man to cheat. Even my own sister.

Okay - there. I said it.

As mentioned, I tried talking to her about the situation, coming from every perspective that you can think of.

• The shaming her approach didn’t work one bit, even though she was once married, so she should be able to understand the damage she’s doing to someone else’s marriage.
• The scaring her approach didn’t work either, although in this day and age, screwing around with someone else’s husband, can most certainly get you hurt, if not killed.
• Even the embarrassing her approach didn’t work, where I tried to help her see how foolish she was being, to have a man take her for granted, and keep her hidden away on a back shelf, and treat her any way he sees fit.

It wasn't as if she was having the time of her life in this one-sided love affair, where the only one calling the shots was this tired old dude (roughly our age)

Whenever I managed to take time and connect with her, she was always sitting home crying; feeling the need to stay close to home and keep her phone within reach, just in case he happened to call or drop by.

What I really found to be ludicrous, was how this no-good cheater apparently spent time tearing her down mentally as well, by constantly accusing her of seeing other men when he’s not around.

Can you believe that?

The nerve of this guy! He has no right to say anything to her about who she spends time with, while he’s laying up in bed with his wife.

I'll say it again, I simply don't understand women who enable men to cheat on their wives, especially when they have the audacity to mistreat the sidepiece as well.

Yet, for some reason, my sister doesn’t seem to see it that way, and for the love of God, I can’t comprehend why.

I guess it’s because she’s in love, or so she says. But as far as I’m concerned, there’s not enough love in the world, to make me allow someone to treat me in that way.

I'm the first one to admit I've been a sucker for love during my time on this earth, but not under those circumstances, and not to that extent.

Personally, as a woman and a former wife myself, all I can think about is what her and this man is doing to the woman he married and bore his children.

Yes he has kids (They always have kids).

Still in all, I hated to see my sister suffering, even though I had to admit that she’s partially responsible for the suffering of another woman and her children.

During the whole affair, my heart went out to my sister as I realized no woman should have to go through what she was feeling. Not her, and not the wife of the man she was sneaking around dating.

Final Thoughts

Fast forward two years later, and the topic of dating and infidelity has barely been on my mind until now.

Thankfully, the affair is over, and she rarely, if ever, speaks about it anymore.

Though we lived in two different states at the time (just as we do now), back then, I still felt like I could have flown to Chicago, gone to her house and literally tried to slap some sense into her silly little head.

Just like this...

But I suspect that probably wouldn't have worked anyway.

As I look back, I've considered whether I was just being an overly concerned big sister, giving her dating advice that clearly fell on deaf ears.

In spite of all the love, understanding and counseling, I tried to provide to her at that time, it didn't change the fact that it was actually out of my hands, and in reality - not my business.

There's just no reasoning with some women from the moment they fall in love.

That being the case, we may never fully understand what makes women in love sometimes behave so foolishly and act unreasonable.

One thing is for certain. As long as women continue to act in this fashion, men will always be able to continue cheating on their wives.

Once again, the men get off easy, while the women suffer the consequences.

That's exactly why I chose to have this conversation during Women's History Month. As far as I'm concerned, I couldn't have picked a better time.

Thanks for reading.